As of now, I have met exactly one single eligible vegan male. He is my awesome bossman here at iEG. (Whaddup, Ayinde?!) Other than that, vegan men seem to be hibernating, or living in a commune somewhere in Idaho, lovingly tending to their organic gardens with no shirts on. Now I’ve got a guy, so I’m not looking to snag a lettuce-munching man myself, but I am trying to look out for all my single vegan female friends who are constantly walking around grumbling Where The Men At like cantankerous fluffy Persian kitties (yoowwlll).
I know statistically speaking there are more vegan women than men, but I would still think that—especially as someone who has at least a few of her toes dipped in the bubbly vegan circuit—I would have come across more datable dudes. At least two or three I could throw at one of my friends. All of the vegan men I have met (and I mean actually met, not just playful banter on Twitter) are either taken or weird. Like “oh, you own a computer? Well computers aren’t vegan. Now let me go harvest my wheatgrass which I have watered with my own tears,” weird. I have written before about what I think is important to have in a partner—compassion, drive, ambition, intelligence, humor, a nice ass and an interest in an independent study that involves hours of uninterrupted cunnilingus. Where all of those vegan dudes hanging out?
So, this Lusty Vegan post was really just to open this topic up to discussion. Vegan men, where the heck are you hiding? Vegan ladies, where did you meet your vegan guy? Did you have to stalk the vegan cookbook section of Barnes and Noble for like six months before you spotted a hunk manhandling an Isa Chandra Moskowitz? Or did you start dating someone and then they went vegan? That happened to me once, sort of.
My ex and I were living together, which meant he ate vegan 90 percent of the time because we cooked all of our meals together. During the last leg of our relationship—before I had a quarter life crisis and moved 9 hours away—I lent him Eating Animals. AFTER we broke up, he was all, “waddup, eat your soy-loving heart out, cause I am a vegetarian now.” Glad he kicked the meat bucket; bummed I spent 3 ½ years singing the gospels of kale to have him convert AFTER we broke up. Le sigh, c’est la vie!
Please share your “How I Found My Vegan” stories, or your “Where the F*ck Are the Vegan Men?” stories, or your “I’m a Vegan Man, Hear Me Roar,” stories. And now, for more Gosling memes.
The Lusty Vegan is a lifestyle and sex column focusing on living and loving as a twenty-something year old vegan. More rants from Zoe Eisenberg can be found at www.sexytofu.com. Follow her on Twitter @Sexytofublog
I give up on finding one . . . . the ones I have met are beyond weird with the exception of my ex (who is the one who turned me!) But even he is weird. I dunno . . . I just try to find someone respectful of my choice at this point.
What do you mean weird? Like hemp waring, burning man types?
S, don’t stop looking. There are many of us out there wondering the same thing about vegan ladies.
Where Michael?
I’m in San Rafael! I’m not that weird (not in the watering my wheatgrass with tears kind of way, anyway)! Most people are actually shocked to learn I’m vegan. I have the same trouble finding vegan girls.
I feel your pain bro!
-Ayinde
i’m a vegan man – i even wrote a book!
Welcome to the unicorn crew dude.
The unicorn crew!!! Love it! Ayinde you need to write on this puhleaseeee. And also you should probably make me some Mac N Yease. K thnx <3
Great. Now ya gotta write a book too? Who keeps raising the barre?
Really all a single vegan gal can do is find a vegetarian or vegetarian-ish guy and convert him.There are very few single, straight vegan men. I know many vegan men who are married, or who are seeking other vegan men, but the single and straight and vegan guy is too much to ask for. I’d even settle for one of those hemp wearing smelly wheatgrass growing vegan men. But can’t find them. And I live in Portland, OR where vegans are plentiful. So the best I can do is find a guy who is at least partially aware of what they eat and steer them toward the light.
I should start a commune. I know there are more vegan straight dudes out there. (though I’ve never meet any) but I feel like I should help in some way! Thinking cap on!
I am so onboard to join this vegan commune you speak of! Living in small-town CT, I’m pretty sure I’m one of maybe three vegans (my sister being one of them haha). Where the vegan men at??
Yeah they are spread out but I think we just need an excuse to all get together!
I’m a vegan man from a small town in CT! But I live in Louisville now, with quite a few other single-straight-vegan men.
Here we go! This is the problem. All the vegan guys hang out with each other at home. I have found that once you find one then you find a whole pack.
There are very few single straight vegan women, too. I’ve lost count of how many fucking times I’ve been on a date or corresponded on a dating site with a vegetarian woman who said “I could NEVER give up CHEESE!” Yeah, whatever. Next? And then there was the woman on VeggieConnection who said in her profile that she was vegan, then later tells me “Well, when I’m with my family or when I go out to eat, I’m more…vegetarian.” Anyway, yeah, there are a few of us single straight vegan men out here who aren’t weird. We may not be your next-door neighbors, but we’re here!
Blahh! “Yeah whatever, next.” If someone ever said that to me after I told them I was vegan, I would be upset. Well, actually, I would think they were a judgmental jerk. It’s fine to think you aren’t compatible with someone and choose not to pursue them, but giving them attitude for their lifestyle choices is…well…judgemental! We’re vegans! We’re compassionate! Let’s be better than that.
Wow, way to perpetuate the vegan douche stereotype.
I assumed all the vegan guys were on the west coast? I found mine there and online. We would have never met otherwise.
When I went Vegan, I told my guy and he was all “well since you cook I’ll eat what you make, but when we go out I’ll eat what I want”…. which was decent of him I guess.
Then we watched “Forks Over Knives” and he said “fuck it, let’s do this shit.”
Not the norm I guess. But it worked out fabulous for me. There is hope?
Note to self: Show boyfriend Forks Over Knives…
Go hang out in Silverlake or Williamsburg and you’ll find some.
Truth.
I don’t know any straight vegan guys but then I’m a vegan gay guy and I don’t know a lot of straight guys period. I think gay guys are more open to being vegan. Not to fulfill a stereotype but…we tend to be a bit more sensitive to others, human or animal. I’ve known many many vegan or vegetarian lesbians. I’m not sure why that happens.
I think it’s part of being a forward thinker, if you are someone who dares to break societal norms when it comes to the most taboo subjects (in the West) human sexuality. Then what is a lil piece of tofu to you ? Plus bonus! You get to save the planet in the precess. I just made a video on the vegan man subject, didn’t get to this but good points Kevin! Video>> http://youtu.be/g79OUcTi8Js check it out. Thanks!
-Ayinde
Love the video! Especially when you get that text from a lady friend….see…chicks dig vegan dudes..
I have to agree with the “weird” vegan guy thing… the ONE time I met a vegan guy for a date, he was beyond weird, not necessarily because of his veganism, but that was definitely a part of it. It’s hard. Every relationship I’ve been in as a vegan has been “mixed” in that the guy has always been omnivorous. I agree…straight vegan guys = unicorns. It was refreshing to see that Veg News man issue, even if I’m having trouble finding a vegan man here, I at least know they exist!
I’m a newly vegan guy, straight, clean-cut professional, ambitious, not “weird” (nor considered weird by my friends, who also aren’t weird), not a player, stylish, don’t smell, etc.
Some of you report your positive dating experiences. I think that’s great. Casting my net broadly (I realize not the best metaphor for a vegan forum) on popular dating site, a search produced 7 vegan women within 26 miles of me. Two of whom were bisexual and one was 18. Both of these demographics are fine, but neither reflect who I’m looking for. I thought, “Great, a whopping 5 vegan! I guess I’ll look for a vegetarian.”
Perhaps I’m not looking in the right places for quality vegan women, so the adventure continues. Any suggestions for meeting vegan girls in LA are greatly appreciated!
I’m trying to hook you up man. Click over to http://facebook.com/ieatgrass and see the comment. You better not be weird.
A
Hang out in veg-friendly restaurants and coffee shops, put the word out there with all your friends that you’re looking to find someone! You never know who will say “hey, you know there is this really sweet vegan girl in my yoga class…”
That’s actually how my mother met her partner! She asked a friend, friend knew this single guy from her yoga class, my mom went to the yoga class with the friend ::cue romantic music::
When my boyfriend and I started getting serious, I told him directly that I’d never settle down with a non-vegan. He stopped eating meat shortly after that. If they want to be with you, they’ll make the change! If not, then it’s not worth it.
Truth
Not sure I agree! I would love them to change because they believe in the lifestyle, but not because I believe in it. I would never want someone to expect me to change for them, so how could I ask the same?
John Salley, the retired NBA superstar is a vegan activist. Straight, married, a father, successful career. Vegan men are rare, but they exist.
I’ve been vegan 15 years and have never dated a vegan until now – and he wasn’t vegan when I met him. But he was curious about why I was vegan. On his own he started googling and watched Earthlings. Changed his life. Thank goodness b/c if he had researched and then didn’t change, I wouldn’t have been able to stay with him. 4 years later we are engaged.
Before meeting him I attempted an on-line veg dating site. I unsubscribed within 24 hours. I was inundated with really weird/creepy emails. I don’t need smelly men (yes, I could tell they smelled by their pics) reciting poetry to me about loving my yoni. That actually came in video form. Not appropriate. I felt like I was going to catch something just watching the video.
Regarding the comment about the vegan men being on the west coast. I live in LA and I have met some pretty awesome & single vegan men. But they know they are a hot commodity and end up being players.
“I could tell they were smelly by the pics” hilar! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks Vanessa! Any advice for “VeganGuy” above who is looking to meet veggie girls in LA?
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I’m a single vegan guy living in Louisville, KY. The verdict isn’t in on whether or not I’m weird, but at least I’m gainfully employed and getting a few graduate degrees in Engineering.
I think it’s hard to find vegans of either sex, honestly, unless you find/make the right communities. Here in Louisville we’ve started the Louisville Vegetarian Club (http://www.louisvilleveg.com), which has brought together dozens of veg*ans, and opened the door quite a bit for socializing. I haven’t met too many single vegan women that I mesh with, but I think the important thing is to find a place or group that welcomes vegans and embrace it. We’ve had great success here. I just hope wherever I end up for my next degree will be as welcoming to vegans as Louisville. Good luck to you ladies and gents on the search! I know I need it.
I’m a man and live in NYC and I just can’t find single vegan women. So I suspect it’s just hard to find one another either way.
I have few over in our “vegan grown up’s only” facebook group. The Lusty Vegan(s) https://www.facebook.com/groups/166094743512864/
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All vegan men are weird. I have lived with several. They are all super emotional too… like dating a woman… which is what we should all do: just date vegan ladies!
Agreed. I should date vegan ladies. D&D.
I am NOT FUCKING WEIRD! Oopsie, was I too emotional? Seriously, keep looking. You’ll find someone eventually.
Where are the single, employed, emotionally stable, not too weird 50ish vegan guys on the east coast? Anyone?
Why do people feel they need to use a non-vegans photo tagged with vegan memes to make their point? We all know that the former Mickey Mouse Club actor is not a vegan. So, can the author get over her lustful thoughts of a non-vegan and use a vegans photo to illustrate her point? I’m a single vegan and proud of the fact that I’m a vegan. I am also an actor. I’ve never posed for PETA and never will because I do not approve their their exploitation of men an women. So, what is the point of the article? Is it to lust over a non vegan guy you can’t have or is it to vent your frustration and not being able to find a sane vegan guy in an insane world?
….I find these Ryan Gosling memes hilarious. I lust over non-vegans all the time. My boyfriend isn’t vegan. See here: http://ieatgrass.com/2012/03/the-lusty-vegan-dating-as-a-non-vegansexual/
Since you’re a vegan and an actor perhaps you would love to make me a funny meme with an actual vegan, because I can’t find any. Snuggles.
I am doomed to a single life. Single, vegan men in Toronto? They are either gay or too young.
Aside from watering my wheat-grass with tears, I don’t think I am particularly weird. On the other hand, I can’t see to find any vegans, weird or otherwise. Maybe you are being too picky…. Have you priced wheat-grass lately?
Ha good call but no, not too picky; I once met a vegan dude who accused me of not being a “real” vegan bc I drive a car! within the first 5 minutes of conversation, mind you. Oy!
It’s refreshing to see others struggling with this very same topic. I am in AZ and it is hard for me to meet female vegans to befriend, let alone an eligible vegan man. And honestly… I get so tired to fielding questions about and defending my lifestyle on the daily to everyone, it would be nice to have a partner who just understood… and could make some meal plans once in a while.
Hang in there.
Agreed! I would be ecstatic to have some more vegan friends in the area , the ones I do have are spread across the country
I’m a vegan man in central Indiana.
If you want to find vegan men, why date nonvegans? It just sends out the message you don’t really care, and you’d rather date a hot guy and make platitudes about how they’ll change if they care about you than put the effort into finding a vegan man.
Of course, I’m an atheist and an anarchist as well, so I’m probably too weird for any of you to date.
It raises a interesting point are omni’s good enough to Eff but not good enough to marry and procreate with? BTW yay for weirdos!
I think it’s all about connection , for me at least . What would be ideal – to fall for a vegan- doesn’t always happen and what happens isn’t always ideal, or easy. But I’m a romantic. So that skews my views on lalalove
I don’t think I could have a “connection” with someone who doesn’t share my basic morals.
I’m a vegan athiest female Green Party activist. Too bad you aren’t in my country or city…. I also know another vegan athiest female, but she’s also in my city. We women are out here; it’s just really hard to find a vegan match, whether you are male or female. We vegans are but 2% of the population (but a growing percentage, so there’s even more to hopeful for). I am thinking of putting up a poster at the vegetarian restaurant. Not sure if I have the guts for it, though.
It’s worth a shot!
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I have to agree with dormouse. Ladies, why settle? Find a man who shares your morals. We’re out there, and I’d say the problem’s the reverse! Available vegan ladies are nearly impossible to find.
Vegan male here in Philadelphia. Although I’m bi and I can’t promise I’m not weird.
Being vegan is fun, I’m a guy and I do it because of principle, I’m aware of animal cruelty. I’m actually way lighter as far as my head goes. If guys are vegan to diet then, it’s wierd if a guy doesn’t like animals being hurt, then I feel like that’s normal.
Nice! I love when it’s a simple decision. I do think it’s still great if a guy is vegan solely for his diet. I love when people care about the food they’re putting in. But I can’t date someone who can’t out-eat me, haha. My guy needs a healthy appetite.
I’m a single vegan guy. It’s impossible to find a vegan lady in the Midwest. Maybe I should head west or east. P.s. I’m not weird, just an ethical vegan/animal lover who loves to eat……..plants.
I am working on accepting the fact that all I can do is hope to meet a man who shares the same (vegan) morals that I have (and who also doesn’t drink alcohol), but statistically speaking it is very very unlikely. (Especially considering the region I live in: Phx AZ) I had the cry out session with my mother who told me I just needed to change or I will never meet anyone. At this point in my life, I don’t think I am ready to sacrifice my beliefs for the sake of a relationship. I just don’t think a relationship is going to work with a meat eating, alcohol drinking person… Sad but true
Seeing that our grocery store just started getting soy milk 2 years ago, I am a vegetarian and not vegan. I have only met a vegetarian once in my entire lifetime. My last bf broke up with me because I couldn’t cook fried chicken. TRUE STORY! I would love to meet a vegan or vegetarian man. But, it is impossible in my small NC town. If any of you could offer some pointers, it would be much appreciated.
I’d say online is probably the best bet.
I am sure the thought about the lack of other vegans arises on both sides, for both men and women. I won’t say that I am not weird, as we are all weird in our own way. Although, I will say i’m not out there like some of the people I’ve met. Speaking of meeting other vegans, in my experience its been tough to meet other vegan women, I have tried to be with others who are not vegan but it just becomes a conflict unless they are willing to adopt compassionate values, not likely though. Anyways, hopefully one of these days that vegan lady and I cross paths.
I’m a single vegan man in Denver and also having many headaches trying to find a plant-based mate. I am a bit weird, but in a good, fascinating, sexy way. Actually, I’m very down to earth. I wish I could find a good woman who is the same way. I’ve found otherwise good women who are omnivores and an assortment of vegan women who are either taken or crazy or nowhere near my age. Maybe we should all get together for a vegan speed date. Well best of luck to all of us.
I am vegan since 23 and I am 28 now. I would say I am a typical guy in just about every sense except that I am vegan and anti war and things like that. A vegan girlfriend is something like a ruby or chunk of gold to me… I haven’t found one but I know they are out there. Still, I am not going to hold it against somebody if they aren’t vegetarian. It took me a Significant Emotional Event to become vegan… Whatever the case, I would say that finding somebody who is vegan is interesting and a great conversation starter for me. I am almost depressed when we part ways because it is rare. I am not a social club joiner either, so that is really out for me. My encounters are typically random I would say. I can offer a tip though to the girls who are looking for vegetarian men: Wear something to let us know you are vegan; a shirt or something like a clue, because if we are also vegan, we will likely let you know.
Lots of love and good for all of you.
If you like someone enough to want to try a monogamous relationship, show him the film “Earthlings.” If he’s not even interested in trying after that, he’s a dick.
Hello everyone. I am vegan, male, straight and single. I live in Panama City, FL. Any single vegan ladies in my area?
Hey everyone,
I’ve just turned vegan after watching a few documentaries on food and the food industry (went cold turkey off of meat, dairy, eggs etc). I am actually doing this from Afghanistan where I serve in the Army. As you can imagine it’s extremely difficult to do here, so my diet isn’t perfet. Don’t get yourself down, I am a “normal” dude (if you consider an atheist male nurse normal) . We’re out there and believe me, as a person who doesn’t usually subscribe to social norms; us “alternative” dudes are too aching for someone who espouses our veiwpoints in life. Keep looking ladies!
As a single vegan male, with a number of single male vegan friends, I can only assume that the answer to this question is “in London!” But whever you are, joining (or starting) a vegan Meetup group can be a great way to meet them…
I am Vegan and my husband is working on it- he’s now vegetarian and totally open to plant-based alternatives to his formerly favorite animal-based products. As for the single, straight Vegan men: there are tons here where I live (Phoenix).
So Phoenix huh?
I’m in Colorado, and there are supposed to be quite a few vegan men and women here. In a year and a half I have met 3 vegan folks. I am straight and male btw. I plan on going to this awesome vegan restaurant in Denver called Watercourse (I suggest you try it if you are in the area), and just start hitting on girls! I don’t make the best money, but I’m only 22, still working on my kinesiology degree. Is it cuz I’m black? Would the vegan gods please send me a blessing?
Sounds like a plan – scope out the vegan hangouts. No worries on the money front, as a vegan woman, I am easily impressed by kitchen skills. Just work on your tofu scramble so you can seal the deal the morning after!
I’m out in San Diego and I’ve met a handful of male and female vegans through meetups but not the one for me yet. The weird vegans will be there but the more vegans you meet the better your chances. And if there aren’t any vegan meetups in your area then start one.